Age brings many fears, chief among them being worries about a declining body. But modern medicine and a new awareness of our personal potential has negated many of those physical fears. But one fear lingers in the minds of many aging men as they approach fifty: will my sex life suffer?
The answer is a resounding no – or at least a not necessarily. There are many reasons why sex after age fifty is just as fun as it was in your twenties. And believe it or not, in many ways it might be even better. Sexually speaking, men in their fifties are truly reaching a golden age.
Here are seven reasons why sex is better after fifty.
1) You know what you’re worth
The foundation of good sex is self-confidence. When we’re younger, we’re still trying to define ourselves, and make our way in the world. Now you know exactly who you are, and you don’t have anything to prove. Remember those days of making love while holding your stomach in the whole time? Never again. You might still work to keep your body in top shape, but you won’t be nearly as insecure as you once were.
2) Experience pays off
You know that thing you do with an ice cube and your pinky finger that drives her wild? Well, you didn’t know that in your twenties, that’s for sure. With age comes experience. By now you’ve experimented with everything, and you know what works, and what doesn’t.
Another big plus – your partner knows what she wants, and isn’t afraid to say it. Communication can mean that you do what you like, and sometimes try things you were never brave enough to ask for before.
3) You can be spontaneous
Remember those days in your twenties and thirties when nearly every intimate moment turned into coitus interrupts? Babies needed midnight feedings, toddlers wanted to crawl into bed with you, and even older kids still had nightmares and desperately needed Mommy and Daddy at exactly the worst moment.
But now that the nest is empty, you and your partner have the freedom to do whatever – wherever and whenever – you like. You can get down and dirty on the sofa after a sexy Game of Thrones scene. You can be as loud as you like, because there’s no one home to hear.
4) No Pressure
Sometimes, sex when we’re young can seem like a contest. How long can I go? How many times can I make her come? But after fifty, your sex life can become much more relaxed. If there are, shall we say, technical difficulties, it isn’t the end of the world. After fifty, you know that there are lots of other ways you can please her… and that there will always be another chance. In fact, many men find that they perform better after fifty than they did when they were younger, simply because they aren’t under so much pressure.
5) You have more time
Even if you can’t take early retirement, chances are you’ve accumulated enough status at work to take plenty of time off. Sick days can now be used for sexual healing. Even if you’re working as hard as ever, you’ll probably realize that you have to make more time for the important things, like your relationships, and abandon the things that don’t matter to you as much. You’ll find you have more time for passion.
6) Sex can become spiritual
After fifty, you can start to have mind-blowing, Sting-style tantric sex. Things slow down – in a good way. You are more attuned to your body, and your partner’s needs. Every moment of intimacy becomes a celebration. Bring on the incense, break out the sandalwood massage oil, and let each session take you to a new spiritual level.
7) No worries
Menopause – the greatest gift to sex. Evolutionarily, sex is about making babies, and when we’re younger, we think about that every time we have sex. Mostly in the please don’t let the condom break, I can’t afford kids way. Now that a woman physically can’t have children, you can dispense with all of the birth control that used to interrupt you… as well as any “off-limits” days.